Yes I am stupid and I should have checked all the Devcenter articles first... It was only when I finished this little tutorial that I realized that Lisa Larson had already covered this ground. I used her Flashcom Server based article as a starting point to turn it into a progressive download and then found out that she had already taken care of it. Ah well, I think I still had some value to add. In particular, my list will not download all flv's in the background but shows a preview and then stops the download as outlined in my tip here. No jpg thumbnails are needed from here on.
Check the video tutorial: yet another flv listbox